Hello everyone, thank you for joining me in this journey of correspondence with my diary, for the sake of getting to know each other, you may call me Aj.
So, what is this all about? It is me putting my thoughts down, like how I have been managing my inner being (the part that is invincible to people) and my outer being (the me that people see)
Where should I start?
How did I get to this age without having any man? Abi, do I hate men ni… but I remember telling God I didn’t want to get married early because I felt I will destroy the man with my childishness and immaturity, but I am very sure I didn’t mean this age, goodness!!!
God recently asked me why I want to get married so badly, is it because of the society, is it because of my age? So, I thought to myself, good question, why exactly do I want to get married, so I listed it like this:
1. For companionship
2. To fulfill the greater purpose of His kingdom
3. To reproduce and raise nations
After all these, God was silent, so I don’t know if I passed or failed, but, let me ask you singles out there, why do you want to get married so badly? And for the married people, are your expectations during your single period being met now that you are married.
The truth about when you are single is that you will get lonely, but then I read somewhere that it is better to be single and lonely than to be married and lonely, mehn! that is deep. How do you explain this? Part of what I listed above was companionship, so imagine I get married and there is no companionship, no 3 may be accomplished but I am not sure if no 2 will be.
And before you all start talking about loving yourself and finding purpose, believe me, this is so different, loving yourself and finding your purpose is what will be the tool to give you the direction to who you want as a companion. Can two walk together except they be agreed? — Amos 3:3. I believe companionship is about agreement.
This brings me to the next question, is it necessary to know your purpose as a single lady before getting married, since we are called to be help meet. Are we supposed to just align ourselves to our husbands’ vision/purpose and work with him to fulfill it?
Coincidentally, I started this diary thing during the lockdown and then talk about boredom and loneliness.
For the single out there, how have you been able to manage this time? Like for me, I am not under any pressure by anybody. I used to tell my family that if anybody ask me foolish question, I will send angels to slap them, but seriously some people are not this lucky. So, let me hear from you on your experience on pressures from people.
